Presuppositions of NLP Explained
So, for clarity let's consider the full meaning of the presuppositions from the previous page just to be sure we understand them so that we can move on to the good stuff.
The ability to change the process by which we experience reality is often more valuable than changing the content of our experience of reality.
In layman's terms, for example, to the driver of a formula one racing car the ability focus on safely and skillfully controlling the car at high speed against the clock and his competitors in order to win the race is likely to be more valuable than the increase in safety he would get from driving around the track slowly on his own.
Another good example of a situation where there is limited scope to change the content of the experience is a job interview - especially if you really want the job. A fairly common technique for calming the nerves by changing our experience of reality is to imagine the person interviewing you sitting in the nude - underneath the sharp suit they are just the same as you and I. Try that one next time you go for a job - but try not to giggle out loud!
The meaning of the communication is the response you get.
Ever heard the expression 'it's not what you said, it's the way you said it? When we communicate we assume that the words we use mean something - and they do - but the meaning of a particular collection of words might be completely different for the person we are communicating with. Yet we are surprised when the person we are communicating with responds to our communication in an unexpected way.
Accepting responses to our communications as a measure of their success and being prepared to alter our communications to solicit the response we are looking for instantly empowers us to become more successful communicators.
All distinctions human beings are able to make concerning our environment and our behavior can be usefully represented through the visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, and gustatory senses.
Everything we do inside our mind and body can be described in terms of things we see, hear, feel, smell and taste.